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“You know it’s funny, no matter how shitty a time we had during whatever experience, I look back on it when I’m reminded of it and it makes happy/sad all at once. It’s a crazy feeling. (came across the McDonald’s receipt #277 from our first night in this seminar, and the super 8 motel card after we got back from Cabo) – cleaning the house. I’d never change how it turned out, wouldn’t be possible to feel those feelings if I did. And I’m reminded of how grateful I am for every experience I’m able to be a part of while I’m alive. So many never got the chance. Thanks for being a part of my experience (and a part of my corny rant lol). I couldn’t ask for a better ex gf. Thanks for being so awesome!”

Well, that’s what I wrote….but never sent. She doesn’t take too kindly to corny. Or sweet. Or nice. Or anything less than ultra masculine. Clearly we weren’t compatible lol. If you met me on the street you’d think…. What a douchebag. Clearly arrogant, douchy, high on himself. And maybe even a little intimidating. But talk to me and you’d see that those are just fronts. Inside I’m just a soft marshmallow! I love being sweet, kind, cute. It’s when I’m in my element. I’ve always been the sweet kid every aunt loved. And somewhere along the way, that wasn’t good enough. The nice guy, as they say, never wins. The douchbag always wins! Or so our world has come to witness. And why is that? The nice guy always gives up his/her power, just hands it over to anyone willing to take it. The douch knows what he/she wants and just goes after it, trampling over anyone in the way. She’s a douchbag. And as such attracts that.

So why did she attract me? Well when we met I had reverted back to douchbag mode, running through girls, diff one every night. And I wasn’t even trying. Just pulled her in. Locked her down. And then I felt safe. So I let her see me. The child inside. And it drove her away. We always seem to want the thing in life that’s the worst for us. We always want what we can’t /shouldn’t have. Oh well. So be it.

Updated from yesterday…

+ I get to have the best parts of her in the way that makes me happy and joyous without anything else I don’t like
+ so much more love for her and from her
+ I keep the best parts of the best friend while getting to have as much sex as I want with other woman
+ we can talk to each other in any way still, cute sayings, babe, whatever. Without making it some type of way it should be.
+ since it’s no longer my concern if she succeeds it fails, my input, other than for happy fun stuff is not needed. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my chest. A weight of responsibility.
+ before, if she fails we both fail since its a team. Now if she fails, she fails. And since this is her choosing, I can have a clean conscience about it without any blame towards myself cause I was the root cause.
+ how can ever be alone anymore if I have Laura and yet as female friends?
+ she is 100% good with me fucking as many people as I want and still seeing her. And for now, still busting a nut in her mouth too. At some point they will end but I would have had what every little boy dreams of for a short time. And then on to the next amazing thing every little boy wants.
+ made me realize, I am, have been, have done, what every little boy wants to be, do, have at some point in life.
(- firefighter, 6 figure salary, a job doing nothing but hanging out with the boys, banging many many hot woman, having amazing relationships full of live, best friends that will kill for you, fam that is always there for you, super cool cars, crazy partying tons of booze tons of drugs, own a super sick house, travel the world, work in a tropical paradise, be super crazy in love, get jacked, do porn freaky sht with girls, be the classic man, I’m sure the list goes on)
+ I don’t have to listen to the incessant complaints for hours on end and get to now listen to some new girl tell me things I’ve never heard before. Learn something new and exciting.
+ (this is gonna sound spiteful) at some point she will ultimately conclude that the image of love is not fixed. What used to make you feel in love is not fixed. It’s ever changing. And it changes with time, life experience, and the fact that our body is always renewing itself and what used to give us a certain high won’t be in years to come. Our taste changes. I used to love powered milk, now it’s just nostalgia. I still love Condensed milk but now I won’t love it fully cause I realize in the amount that I feel love from it, it’s bad for my body and the love I feel from its taste, isn’t enough to keep it around. What I value has changed with time, knowledge, experience.

+today I made some really amazing discoveries. I wrote the last blog this morning and update this one shortly after. I have come to realize that there are just some fundamentals that we fear. And those fears end up driving the bus, all we end up doing is going along for the ride. Focusing on what we don’t want will only bring us more of the same. Focusing on what we do and what will bring us there and doing the little things that will eventually bring us there is the key. What you resist in life will persist. That’s really all there is to say. Stop resisting being afraid. Some resisting failure. Stop resisting being alone. Do the work and then just get out of your own way and just chill the fuck out. The best things come to you when the work is done and your not forcing it. Energy flows where it feels secure and where it belongs. Be the place where that energy can be free to be safe, a space of love.